Denial Quotes


Most men would rather deny a hard truth than face it.

A Game of Thrones

George R.R. Martin

A Game of Thrones
Denial    Honesty    Truth

you can't get away from yourself by moving from one place to another.

The Sun Also Rises

Ernest Hemingway

The Sun Also Rises

There is no point in using the word 'impossible' to describe something that has clearly happened.

Contrary    Denial    Impossible    Logic    Past    Reality

Cherish those who seek the truth but beware of those who find it.

Denial    Fear    Reality    Truth    Truth hurts    Truth quotes    Truths

If you desire healing,
let yourself fall ill
let yourself fall ill.

Denial    Depression    Healing    Pain    Recovery    Sadness    Suffering

The acceptance of oneself is the essence of the whole moral problem and the epitome of a whole outlook on life. That I feed the hungry, that I forgive an insult, that I love my enemy in the name of Christ -- all these are undoubtedly great virtues. What I do unto the least of my brethren, that I do unto Christ. But what if I should discover that the least among them all, the poorest of all the beggars, the most impudent of all the offenders, the very enemy himself -- that these are within me, and that I myself stand in need of the alms of my own kindness -- that I myself am the enemy who must be loved -- what then? As a rule, the Christian's attitude is then reversed; there is no longer any question of love or long-suffering; we say to the brother within us "Raca," and condemn and rage against ourselves. We hide it from the world; we refuse to admit ever having met this least among the lowly in ourselves.

Where justice is denied, where poverty is enforced, where ignorance prevails, and where any one class is made to feel that society is an organized conspiracy to oppress, rob and degrade them, neither persons nor property will be safe.

Had I been in love, I could not have been more wretchedly blind. But vanity, not love, has been my folly.

Affection    Blindness    Denial    Folly    Love    Refusal    Romance    Vanity

Now what state do you live in?'
'Denial.

To regret one’s own experiences is to arrest one’s own development. To deny one’s own experiences is to put a lie into the lips of one’s own life. It is no less than a denial of the soul.

De Profundis

Oscar Wilde

De Profundis

How 'bout a shot of truth in that denial cocktail.

Denial    Hate    Lies    Love    Sarcasm    Truth

I could deny it if I liked. I could deny anything if I liked.

In order to escape accountability for his crimes, the perpetrator does everything in his power to promote forgetting. If secrecy fails, the perpetrator attacks the credibility of his victim. If he cannot silence her absolutely, he tries to make sure no one listens.

That’s pretty much how we get through our own lives, watching television. Smoking crap. Self-medicating. Redirecting our attention. Jacking off. Denial.

Choke

Chuck Palahniuk

Choke

The conflict between the will to deny horrible events and the will to proclaim them aloud is the central dialectic of psychological trauma.

To find out if she really loved me, I hooked her up to a lie detector. And just as I suspected, my machine was broken.


Broken    Deceit    Deception    Denial    Deny    Funny    Honest    Honesty    Humor    Illogical    Illusion    Lie    Lie detector    Lies    Life    Love    Machine    Relationships    Suspicion    Women    Word junkies

I find I am constantly being encouraged to pluck out some one aspect of myself and present this as the meaningful whole, eclipsing or denying the other parts of self.

I'm convinced that most men don't know what they believe, rather, they only know what they wish to believe. How many people blame God for man's atrocities, but wouldn't dream of imprisoning a mother for her son's crime?

Agenda    Apologetics    Atrocities    Belief    Bias    Biases    Blame    Confusion    Crime    Denial    Dream    Free will    God    Hypocrisy    Imprisonment    Mother    Rhetorical    Scrutiny    Self interest    Skepticism    Son    Uncertainty

Betrayal is too kind a word to describe a situation in which a father says he loves his daughter but claims he must teach her about the horrors of the world in order to make her a stronger person; a situation in which he watches or participates in rituals that make her feel like she is going to die. She experiences pain that is so intense that she cannot think; her head spins so fast she can't remember who she is or how she got there.
All she knows is pain. All she feels is desperation. She tries to cry out for help, but soon learns that no one will listen. No matter how loud she cries, she can't stop or change what is happening. No matter what she does, the pain will not stop. Her father orders her to be tortured and tells her it is for her own good. He tells her that she needs the discipline, or that she has asked for it by her misbehavior. Betrayal is too simple a word to describe the overwhelming pain, the overwhelming loneliness and isolation this child experiences.
As if the abuse during the rituals were not enough, this child experiences similar abuse at home on a daily basis. When she tries to talk about her pain, she is told that she must be crazy. "Nothing bad has happened to you;' her family tells her Each day she begins to feel more and more like she doesn't know what is real. She stops trusting her own feelings because no one else acknowledges them or hears her agony. Soon the pain becomes too great. She learns not to feel at all. This strong, lonely, desperate child learns to give up the senses that make all people feel alive. She begins to feel dead.
She wishes she were dead. For her there is no way out. She soon learns there is no hope.
As she grows older she gets stronger. She learns to do what she is told with the utmost compliance. She forgets everything she has ever wanted. The pain still lurks, but it's easier to pretend it's not there than to acknowledge the horrors she has buried in the deepest parts of her mind. Her relationships are overwhelmed by the power of her emotions. She reaches out for help, but never seems to find what she is looking for The pain gets worse. The loneliness sets in. When the feelings return, she is overcome with panic, pain, and desperation.
She is convinced she is going to die. Yet, when she looks around her she sees nothing that should make her feel so bad. Deep inside she knows something is very, very wrong, but she doesn't remember anything. She thinks, "Maybe I am crazy.

Abuse    Betrayal    Child abuse    Child sexual abuse    Control    Crazy    Denial    Desparation    Horror    Hurt    Insane    Loneliness    Manipulation    Pain    Pretend    Ritual abuse    Rituals

The ORDINARY RESPONSE TO ATROCITIES is to banish them from consciousness. Certain violations of the social compact are too terrible to utter aloud: this is the meaning of the word unspeakable.
Atrocities, however, refuse to be buried. Equally as powerful as the desire to deny atrocities is the conviction that denial does not work. Folk wisdom is filled with ghosts who refuse to rest in their graves until their stories are told. Murder will out. Remembering and telling the truth about terrible events are prerequisites both for the restoration of the social order and for the healing of individual victims.
The conflict between the will to deny horrible events and the will to proclaim them aloud is the central dialectic of psychological trauma. People who have survived atrocities often tell their stories in a highly emotional, contradictory, and fragmented manner that undermines their credibility and thereby serves the twin imperatives of truth-telling and secrecy. When the truth is finally recognized, survivors can begin their recovery. But far too often secrecy prevails, and the story of the traumatic event surfaces not as a verbal narrative but as a symptom.
The psychological distress symptoms of traumatized people simultaneously call attention to the existence of an unspeakable secret and deflect attention from it. This is most apparent in the way traumatized people alternate between feeling numb and reliving the event. The dialectic of trauma gives rise to complicated, sometimes uncanny alterations of consciousness, which George Orwell, one of the committed truth-tellers of our century, called "doublethink," and which mental health professionals, searching for calm, precise language, call "dissociation." It results in protean, dramatic, and often bizarre symptoms of hysteria which Freud recognized a century ago as disguised communications about sexual abuse in childhood. . . .

Even as your body betrays you, your mind denies it.

Betrayal    Body    Denial    Life    Mind    Truth

The human mind isn't a terribly logical or consistent place. Most people, given the choice to face a hideous or terrifying truth or to conveniently avoid it, choose the convenience and peace of normality. That doesn't make them strong or weak people, or good or bad people. It just makes them people.

Turn Coat

Jim Butcher

Turn Coat

What man ever openly apologizes for slander? It is not so much a feeling of slander as it is that of a massive lie, a misdeed not only to the slandered but also to those manipulated in the process. He has made them all, every one, his enemies, thereupon he is so overwhelmed with guilt that he will deny it until his grave.

Apologies    Deceit    Defamation    Denial    Enemy    Feelings    Feelings of weakness    Gossip    Grave    Guilt    Libel    Lies    Manipulation    Massive    Misdeed    Overwhelming    Slander

Somehow everything I own smells of you, and for the tiniest moment it's all not true

Everything was perfectly healthy and normal here in Denial Land.

Denial    Normal    Snafu

I wasn't crying about mothers," he said rather indignantly. "I was crying because I can't get my shadow to stick on. Besides, I wasn't crying.

Peter Pan

J.M. Barrie

Defeat is for the valiant. Only they will know the honour of losing and the joy of winning
I am not here to tell you that defeat is a part of life: we all know that. Only the defeated know Love. Because it is in the realm of love that we fight our first battles – and generally lose.
I am here to tell you that there are people who have never been defeated.
They are the ones who never fought.
They managed to avoid scars, humiliations, feelings of helplessness, as well as those moments when even warriors doubt the existence of God.’’
Manuscript Found In Accra – Paulo Coelho

Aetheism    Defeat    Denial    Doubt    God    Helplessness    Honour    Humiliation    Life    Love    Scar    Valiant    Victory

And that is how we are. By strength of will we cut off our inner intuitive knowledge from admitted consciousness. This causes a state of dread, or apprehension, which makes the blow ten times worse when it does fall.

A fear of weakness only strengthens weakness.

[P]erhaps you notice how the denial is so often the preface to the justification.

I wonder if being sane means disregarding the chaos that is life, pretending only an infinitesimal segment of it is reality.

Koolaids: The Art of War

Rabih Alameddine

Koolaids: The Art of War
Chaos    Denial    Existentialism    Life    Repression    Sanity

I protect myself by refusing to know myself.

Some people's lives seem to flow in a narrative; mine had many stops and starts. That's what trauma does. It interrupts the plot. You can't process it because it doesn't fit with what came before or what comes afterwards.

Denial    Ptsd    Trauma

Mental anguish always results from the avoidance of legitimate suffering.

Confidence turns into pride only when you are in denial of your mistakes.

I felt I was drawing close to that age, that place in life, where you realize one day what you'd told yourself was a Zen detachment turns out to be naked fear. You'd had one serious love relationship in your life and it had ended in tragedy, and the tragedy had broken something inside you. But instead of trying to repair the broken place, or at least really stop and look at it, you skated and joked. You had friends, you were a decent citizen. You hurt no one. And your life was somehow just about half of what it could be.

A Little Love Story

Roland Merullo

A Little Love Story

Without realizing that the past is constantly determining their present actions, they avoid learning anything about their history. They continue to live in their repressed childhood situation, ignoring the fact that is no longer exists, continuing to fear and avoid dangers that, although once real, have not been real for a long time.

Amnesia    Child sex abuse    Childhood    Chile abuse    Danger    Denial    Emotional neglect    Emotions    Facts    Fear    History    Memories    Memory    Past    Reality    Repressed    Repression

We hunger in earnest for that which we cannot consume.

Cravings    Denial    Desire    Desires    Forbidden    Forbidden fruit    Lust    Needs    Temptation    Wants

Delay is the deadliest form of denial.

A sign of power in a man is not only when people follow what he suggests, but also when people make a conscious effort to do the exact opposite of what he suggests.

Boss    Denial    Effort    Follow    Immaturity    Influence    Lead    Leader    Leadership    Man    Opposite    Power    Service    Sign    Spite    Suggestion

The sad truth about bigotry is that most bigots either don't realize that they are bigots, or they convince themselves that their bigotry is perfectly justified.

Antisemitism    Bigot    Bigotry    Bigots    Delusion    Denial    Homophobia    Justified    Prejudice    Racism    Sexism    Truth

It's all overrated, man. Sex is only a great thing if you're not getting any.

A man who denies his past is a man who truly denies himself a future, for he refuses to know himself, and to deny knowledge of oneself is to stumble through life as handicapped as the blind mute.

It is my belief no man ever understands quite his own artful dodges to escape from the grim shadow of self-knowledge.

Lord Jim

Joseph Conrad

Lord Jim

Denial can be beautiful
But only when you're a fantastic liar

Denial    Liar    Love    Romance

We have inherited a fear of memories of slavery. It is as if to remember and acknowledge slavery would amount to our being consumed by it. As a matter of fact, in the popular black imagination, it is easier for us to construct ourselves as children of Africa, as the sons and daughters of kings and queens, and thereby ignore the Middle Passage and centuries of enforced servitude in the Americas. Although some of us might indeed be the descendants of African royalty, most of us are probably descendants of their subjects, the daughters and sons of African peasants or workers.

On top of the abuse and neglect, denial heaps more hurt upon the child by requiring the child to alienate herself from reality and her own experience. In troubled families, abuse and neglect are permitted; it's the talking about them that is forbidden.

Abuse    Alienation    Child abuse    Childhood abuse    Denial    Deny    Family secrets    Forbidden    Hidden    Incest    Neglect    Parenting    Pretend    Reality    Secret

I hope someday she meets just the right man and has babies - a whole passel of babies, more than I could have - so she understands how it kills me now that she won't let me hug her when she's in obvious distress. (The Life You've Imagined)

The thing about denial is that it doesn't feel like denial when it's going on.

Along with the trust issues, one of the hardest parts to deal with is the feeling of not being believed or supported, especially by your own grandparents and extended family. When I have been through so much pain and hurt and have to live with the scars every day, I get angry knowing that others think it is all made up or they brush it off because my cousin was a teenager. I was ten when I was first sexually abused by my cousin, and a majority of my relatives have taken the perpetrator's side. I have cried many times about everything and how my relatives gave no support or love to me as a kid when this all came out. Not one relative ever came up to that innocent little girl I was and said "I am sorry for what you went through" or "I am here for you." Instead they said hurtful things: "Oh he was young." "That is what kids do." "It is not like he was some older man you didn't know." Why does age make a difference? It is a sick way of thinking. Sexual abuse is sexual abuse. What is wrong with this picture? It brings tears to my eyes the way my relatives have reacted to this and cannot accept the truth. Denial is where they would rather stay.

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